The Women Prohibited For Men To Marry In Islam, By Murtadha Gusau
In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful
Verily, all praise is for Allah, we seek His help and His forgiveness. We seek refuge with Allah from the evil of our own souls and from our bad deeds. Whomsoever Allah guides will never be led astray, and whomsoever Allah leaves astray, no one can guide. I bear witness that there is no god but Allah, He is alone without any partner, and I bear witness that Muhammad is His slave and Messenger.
“O you who believe! Fear Allah as He should be feared, and die not except in a state of Islam (as Muslims) with complete submission to Allah.”[Surah Ali Imran, 3:102]
“O mankind! Be dutiful to your Lord, Who created you from a single person, and from him He created his wife, and from them both He created many men and women, and fear Allah through Whom you demand your mutual (rights), and (do not cut the relations of) the wombs (kinship) Surely, Allah is Ever an All-Watcher over you.” [Surah al-Nisa’, 4:1]
“O you who believe! Keep your duty to Allah and fear Him, and speak (always) the truth. He will direct you to do righteous good deeds and will forgive you your sins. And whosoever obeys Allah and His Messenger (Pbuh) he has indeed achieved a great achievement (i.e. he will be saved from the Hellfire and made to enter Paradise).” [Surah al-Ahzab, 33:70-71]
As to what proceeds:
Verily the best of speech is the Book of Allah and the best of guidance is the guidance of Muhammad (pbuh). The worst of affairs are the newly-invented affairs in the religion and every newly invented affair in the religion is an innovation and every innovation is misguidance and all misguidance is in the hellfire.
As to what proceeds:
Servants of Allah! In Islam the women that men can’t marry are divided into two categories:
Those he can never marry and those he can’t marry temporarily or until their statuses change.
Allah the Most High said:
“And marry not women whom your fathers married, except what has already passed; indeed it was shameful and most hateful, and an evil way.” [ Surah An-Nisa’, : 22]
Brothers and Sisters! The above mentioned verse shows that it’s not allowed for a son to marry the women his father married. Ibn Kathir mentioned this is a means of honouring.
And Allah the almighty said:
“Forbidden unto you are your mothers, and your daughters, and your sisters, and your father’s sisters, and your mother’s sisters, and your brother’s daughters and your sister’s daughters, and your foster-mothers, and your foster-sisters, and your mothers-in-law, and your step-daughters who are under your protection (born) of your women unto whom you have gone in – but if you have not gone in unto them, then it is no sin for you (to marry their daughters) – and the wives of your sons who (spring) from your own loins. And (it is forbidden unto you) that you should have two sisters together, except what hath already happened (of that nature) in the past. Lo! Allah is ever Forgiving, Merciful. And all married women (are forbidden? unto you) save those (captives) whom your right hands possess. It is a decree of Allah for you. Lawful unto you are all beyond those mentioned, so that you seek them with your wealth in honest wedlock, not debauchery. And those of whom you seek content (by marrying them), give unto them their portions as a duty. And there is no sin for you in what you do by mutual agreement after the duty (hath been done). Lo! Allah is ever Knower, Wise.”
My people! This verse describes the women that are allowed and prohibited for men to marry.
Imam As-Sa’adi commenting on this verse said:
“Included in this verse are the women men cant marry due to breast-feeding, related by marriage, and intercourse; and the women a man is allowed to marry.”
The women that a man can’t marry because of family ties are:
● Mother’s sisters: These include those girls from your mother or father, even if they divorce and remarry and have children.
● Paternal aunts: These are the sisters of your father, grandfather or great-grandfather.
● Maternal aunts: These are the sisters of your mother and grand mother; Nieces and Nephews and their children.
Allah the Most High said:
“Lawful unto you are all beyond those mentioned.”
This includes the permissibility to marry your cousins.
The women you can’t marry due to breastfeeding. The Prophet(Pbuh) said:
“What becomes unlawful (for marriage) through breast-feeding is that which becomes unlawful through lineage.” [Sunan an-Nasa’i, 3302]
The amount of Sucklings that make the prohibition effective are Five.
Aisha (Allah he pleased with her) discussing fosterage which (makes marriage) unlawful; and she (Aisha) said: “There was revealed in the Noble Qur’an ten clear sucklings, and then five clear (sucklings).” [Sahih Muslim, 1452]
This includes the women who breastfed you.
The women that a man can’t marry because they are related by marriage are:
● Stepdaughters, daughters-in-law and Mothers-in-law. One’s grandfather’s wife and grandson’s wife. A step-mother.
“And your stepdaughters who are under your protection (born) of your women unto whom you have gone in.” [Surah An-Nisa’i: 23]
This verse brings a few benefits:
Stepdaughters are like daughters. It’s permissible to be alone with your stepdaughters. It’s prohibited to have relations with your step daughters. The Prophet mentioned that it is prohibited to marry two sisters at the same time and a woman along with her paternal and maternal aunt.
The women that a man can’t marry due to relations:
This refers to all married women. A man isn’t able to marry a married woman until she divorces and completes her iddah.
The next category of women a man can’t marry are the women who a temporarily prohibited for him to marry until something occurs that makes them allowed for him to marry.
The woman who is in her Iddah from a returnable divorce, irrevocable divorce or in her waiting period after her husband’s death. After the period concludes she can remarry. A woman that a man has divorced three times. It’s not allowed for him to remarry her until she marries someone else.
Brothers and Sisters! The Messenger of Allah (Pbuh) was asked about a man who divorced his wife three times, and she married another who entered upon her, but divorced her before having intercourse with her, whether she was lawful for the former husband. She said: The Prophet (Pbuh) replied:
“She is not lawful for the first (husband) until she tastes the honey of the other husband and he tastes her honey.” [Sunan Abi Dawud, 2309]
A person in the state of Ihram isn’t allowed to marry or perform a marriage for others, or get engaged.
Allah’s Messenger (Pbuh) had stated:
“A Muhrim must neither marry himself, nor arrange the marriage of another one, nor should he make the proposal of marriage.” [Sahih Muslim, 1409]
An adulteress, until she repents. Allah the almighty said:
“The adulterer marries not but an adulteress or a Mushrikah and the adulteress none marries her except an adulterer or a Muskrik and that means that the man who agrees to marry (have a sexual relation with) a Mushrikah (female polytheist, pagan or Idolatress) or a prostitute, then surely he is either an adulterer, or a Mushrik (polytheist, pagan or idolater, etc.) And the woman who agrees to marry (have a sexual relation with) a Mushrik (polytheist, pagan or idolater) or an adulterer, then she is either a prostitute or a Mushrikah (female polytheist, pagan, or Idolatress, etc.)]. Such a thing is forbidden to the believers (of Islamic Monotheism).” [Surah An-Nur:3]
A fornicator until he/she repents. The Prophet (Pbuh) said:
“The adulterer who has been flogged shall not marry save the one like him.” [Abu Dawud, 2052]
Shaykh Muhammad Sa’id Rislan said:
“Being flogged isn’t a condition for repentance, so long as the male or female are known fornicators then it isn’t allowed for them to marry the clean believers.”
A Mushrik (idolater). There is a consensus (Ijma’) among the scholars that it’s not permissible for a Muslim man to marry an idolater or apostate until she repents to Allah. Included among the Mushrik is a grave worshipper. The evidence for this decision is the verse in Surah AL-Baqarah, 221.
“And do not marry Al-Mushrikat (idolatresses, etc.) till they believe (worship Allah Alone). And indeed a slave woman who believes is better than a (free) Mushrikah (idolatress, etc.), even though she pleases you. And give not (your daughters) in marriage to Al-Mushrikun till they believe (in Allah Alone) and verily, a believing slave is better than a (free) Mushrik (idolater, etc.), even though he pleases you. Those (Al-Mushrikun) invite you to the Fire, but Allah invites (you) to Paradise and Forgiveness by His Leave, and makes His Ayat (proofs, evidences, verses, lessons, signs, revelations, etc.) clear to mankind that they may remember.”
The women who the husband accuse of Zina [Adultery].
Joining between two sisters or a woman and her maternal/paternal aunt. However, if the woman dies, then its permissible for him to marry her sister or her aunt.
Abu Hurairah (Allah be pleased with him) reported Allah’s Messenger (may peace upon him) having said this: “One should not combine a woman and her father’s sister, nor a woman and her mother’s sister in marriage.” [Sahih Muslim, 1408]
I ask Allah the Almighty to give us the ability to restrain our desires and to willingly submit ourselves to His will.
Oh Allah the Almighty, make our country Nigeria safe and the other Muslim countries in general, Oh Lord of the universe (jinn and mankind).
Oh Allah protect our safety, our Iman and our peace in our native lands and rectify those placed in authority over our affairs (our leaders), and don’t hold us to account for that which the foolish amongst us have done, and protect us from trials the apparent and hidden of it.
Oh Allah show us the truth for the truth and help us to follow it, and show us the falsehood for falsehood and help us to stay away from it, and make Iman the most beloved to us and beautify it in our hearts, and make disbelief, lewdness and rebellion most hated to us and make us from those who are guided.
Oh Allah rectify our leaders, guide them to that which is good for themselves and to that which is good for us. Oh Allah make them a means for our safety, and make them a means for our word (unity) to be one, and make them a cause for our coming together, Yaa Al-Hayyu (Oh The Ever Living, The One who cannot die), Yaa Al-Qayyum (The Self Sustainer), Yaa Saami’ (The Hearer) of the supplication.
Oh Allah safeguard our country. Oh Allah bring ease to the Nigerians from that which they face from sufferings. Oh Allah give us immediate ease. Oh Allah give us victory with a happy outcome. Oh Allah make ease for the Nigerians from every difficulty and from every suffering, Oh Hearer of the supplication, Oh Reliever from every distress, Oh answerer of the supplication, Oh Helper of the grieving, Oh ever living, Self Sustaining, Oh Hearer of the supplication, Oh Owner of Loftiness and Nobility!
I ask Allah to assist us in living by the Quran and Sunnah. I pray that He lets us recognise the truth for what it is and helps us to follow it, and that He lets us see falsehood for what it is and helps us to avoid it.
O Allah! Guide us and protect us from the causes of ignorance and destruction! Save us from the defects of ourselves! Cause the last of our deeds to be the best and most righteous! And forgive all of us.
Oh Allah! Make every single aspect of our life be for You and in service of Your Creation. Please remove all false intentions that we have.
Oh Allah! save humanity from being its own enemy. Protect Your creation from oppression. Save the people of Nigeria from internal and external oppressors and give them justice. Protect us all from violence, fear and danger, You are our Protector.
Ya Allah! let us love You as You deserved to be loved, and let us fear You as You deserve to be feared, and let us leave this world serving Your creation for Your sake.
Oh Allah! increase us in beneficial knowledge, let this knowledge be with sincerity, not for seeking fame, glory, status, material wealth. Let this knowledge serve Your cause in a way that You accept, and let it benefit humanity.
Oh Allah! please guide our children and all children. They are surrounded by so much temptation and forbidden things. Protect them our Lord from all of the evil influences that are around them. Give them friends who will strengthen their faith and help them stay on the Straight Path. Ameen Ya Rabb!
My respected people! Anything good I have said in my today’s Khutbah (Sermon) is from Allah the Almighty, and any mistakes are my own and we seek refuge in Allah from giving wrong advice and from all forms of calamities and fitnah. And I ask Allah’s forgiveness if I stepped beyond bounds in anything I said or I do.
May Allah be praised, and may the peace and blessings of Allah be upon His Messenger Muhammad and upon his family and Companions.
With this I conclude my Khutbah (Sermon) and ask Allah, the Almighty and the sublime, to forgive all of our sins. So seek his forgiveness, He is all forgiving Most Merciful.
This Jumu’ah Khutbah (Friday Sermon) was prepared for delivery today, Friday, Zul Qi’dah 11, 1438 A.H. (August 4, 2017), By Imam Murtadha Muhammad Gusau, the Chief Imam of Nagazi-Uvete Jumu’ah and Alhaji Abdurrahman Okene’s Mosques, Okene Kogi State Nigeria. He can be reached through: +2348038289761.