But do you know that there are real emotions that go on when a woman is pregnant? Needless to say the spiritual battles? The surge of hormones gives birth to feelings that many times can not be expressed in words. For a husband, this process could bring a tiny mix of confusion and friction amid the expectation of the blessing.
If you are reading this then you are concerned for someone or maybe yourself, as whatever the case we all have someone close to us who is pregnant or is thinking of going through that process.
It is a beautiful privilege to carry someone within you and make that blissful addition to your family. Those are treasures and life moments we appreciate.
But do you know that there are real emotions that go on when a woman is pregnant? Needless to say the spiritual battles? The surge of hormones gives birth to feelings that many times can not be expressed in words. For a husband, this process could bring a tiny mix of confusion and friction amid the expectation of the blessing. Sometimes you wonder if there is a way to help out. Trust me you can’t be of any help if you don’t know what was going on, can you?
What Husbands Should Know
1. Your pregnant wife has fears she may not tell you! Yes there are concerns that generally come with being a mom. First time moms have those worries and feelings of inadequacy. But moms who had rough previous births have other concerns like managing the growing family, scared of the labour process again, coping with work, family and caring for her changing self.
What can you do?
• Listen to her, don’t wave it off like it doesn’t matter.
• Encourage her with positive faith filled words. Biblical Confessions go a long way.
• Pray for her. There is tremendous power in prayers. There is a free Book for you keep reading!
2. She may not know what she wants! Ok you know this, one moment she wants spaghetti a few minutes later it’s cupcake. Don’t get worked up.
What can you do? Try and laugh it off. Throw in a smile and give that look that you totally understand she is in a different season of life. Don’t make it any harder complaining because she has a lot in her mind she isn’t nagging about.
3. Transitioning into a new season is hard! The journey into motherhood is nothing like being single. The carefree mode switches into a life time of caring and nurturing for her new home. It comes easy for some women but not as easy for others. It will help your marriage knowing how your pregnant wife is coping with changes in her body, her routine, her work, her faith etc. And pregnancy is one of those life changing transitions in marriage she has to go through.
What can you do? Help her through the process. A listening ear and genuine hearty conversations will let you know how she is doing. That’s what marriage entails- helping each other through life transitions.
4. She is concerned about her looks! Hmm!! It matters to her she getting out of shape so don’t make her get sweats over her weight before the baby is born. The stretch marks worry her too but there is little she can do about them.
What can you do? Reassure her you love her and she is beautiful all the same. Take walk outs together when you get the chance and spend time as a couple.
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For Expectant Moms
1. You are not alone on your journey to motherhood. It is fun and blissful. Although pregnancy experiences are different for all moms, it is a phase in our lives we share in common. Choose to find joy in your pregnancy. See every moment of your pregnancy as a blessing.
2. Fears are not real, you make them real when you think upon them. Encourage your heart in the place of prayer and praise too.
Related Article: Looking Fear in the Face by Dawn Klinge.
3. Communication is one of the building blocks for a successful marriage. You may be having rough times but shutting your hubby out is not a good idea. Express your feelings, your struggles, your needs etc. Let him know as much as you can what you are going through without making him feel bad about it! It may help if your husband is on the same page as you are in you pregnancy.
4. Find friends that would help and encourage you. Connecting with other moms can be rewarding.
5. Ask for help when you really need it. You don’t have to do all the chores and errands yourself; do ask for a helping hand. It is not laziness!
6. When you are tired, take a dive on your couch or bed. You deserve it.
7. You will make a great mom. No mom is perfect or has her acts together. Motherhood is a process of learning even if it is through our mistakes or those of others, just learn one day at a time.
8. Do your medicals and regular exercise. I am sure you know the rest of the drills.
There are a lot of help magazines, blogs and websites dedicated to pregnancy. Feel free to get your hands around them too. Don’t forget to download “40 Powerful Prayers For Expectant Moms” eBook just for you. No strings attached.
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By His Great Grace,
Ifeoma Samuel is an author, blogger and speaker at women’s conferences. She uses her writings to share everyday life stories about God’s immense love, and is the author of My 30 Days Journey To a Fulfilled Life. Visit her blog Purposeful And Meaningful and you can follow her on Pinterest|Google+|Facebook